Friday, 4 March 2016

20 Things I'd Tell My 18 Year Old Self

Dear 18 year old Nicola,

  This is future Nicola, coming to you from nearly ten years in the future. I have a few words of advice from you, being a bit more knowledgeable about what's gone on in your life and all that.

  1. Don't buy a car. You don't need a car. If you do decide to buy a car, don't buy a ridiculous one just because you feel you should buy one that you love. In this timeline, you bought a new beetle. You loved that beetle, more than anything. But you only kept it for one year because the insurance was ridiculous and you made an 80% loss on it too.
  2. Don't go to university. You don't really want to. All that's going to happen is you're going to get in all sorts of debt for a subject you were never really all that into anyway. And no matter what everyone always says about uni being all about the experience, you've always regretted it since.
  3. It also turns out that you hate being a teacher. So feel free to skip that entire section of your life.
  4. You absolutely never ever feel like you fit in in Kent. So it would probably help you out if you skipped all the time you waste staying there and trying it out and just moved to London instead as soon as possible.
  5. You actually really like food. I know that up until this point in your life, you've always thought you were a really picky eater. You eat basically the same meals over and over again. It turns out you really like a whole variety of food but have just never been forced to eat it before. You should probably go ahead and start trying everything out now because you'll probably love it.
  6. For some reason you'll suddenly become a whole lot more attractive to people. I don't know why, but it'll happen. It'll happen even though you're going to have braces again (more on that later) so just don't worry too much about it.
  7. You're about to give up on the idea of joining the RAF because the waiting lists are so long and annoying and don't seem to be going anywhere. You should probably try not to do that and just stick with it, because ten years later you'll still be wanting to join the RAF but now be feeling like really, you're too old. And for some of your options you actually WILL be too old, so stick that one out hey? I know it's been a year already, but give it a go.
  8. You're actually quite a social person, the people around you just suck. Like I already told you, move out of Kent.
  9. You're going to get braces when you're older. You're going to have them up until you're 26, at which point you get jaw surgery as well. You should probably start preparing yourself for that now because it is a Pretty Big Deal, although you'll eventually discover no one else actually really cares at all. But, if you get the chance, maybe get them a bit earlier?

  10. You're going to stay in some shitty relationships because you feel like you can't do any better and no one else will ever want you. In some cases, you're going to do this for years. Don't do that. They just made you miserable, and years later some of those much better people you were crushing on will actually let you know that the feeling had been mutual afterall.
  11. Everyone else is going to get married and have kids and you're going to be super jealous. Yeah, just prepare for that I guess.
  12. You're still not sure if you even want kids, though. You probably don't. That's okay, you don't have to. 
  13. You have a really odd taste in men as you grow up, by the way. Sorry.
  14. You love to travel. You don't love beach holidays. Skip the beach holidays and go straight on to the bigger trips because you're going to be doing a lot of them. Your favourite continent is south America by the way, so maybe slot that in a bit earlier?
  15. You're going to become a really confident person. I know you don't speak that much yet and don't feel like you have that many friends. Well, let's be honest, you're still not going to feel like you have many friends, but if I'm being really logical about it you probably do. But you do become very confident and have no shame whatsoever and you're really a lot better for it. It takes time but it happens.
  16. You're going to stop feeling so anxious about a lot of things, but not about everything. It sort of just transfers to other areas. Eventually you'll just feel unloveable even though you know it's irrational. But that's better than feeling worried about EVERYTHING, right?
  17. Why are you a Goth? It turns out you bloody love wild and colourful clothes, what's wrong with you?!
  18. You're never going to change your opinion about drinking, and you'll be surprised to discover that actually people will continue to pressure you more to drink as you get older. Do your thang.
  19. If a job is making you miserable, just leave. You're quite bad at leaving jobs because you feel you should stick them out even though it's getting to the point you're actually taking mental health days to get through them. It turns out employers don't care about you being a bit of a job hopper as much as you think they will.
  20. People suck. Sorry. You don't want to think they do, and at this point I STILL don't want to think they do, but unfortunately a lot of the time people are just plain selfish. You might want to just prepare yourself for that and stop expecting the same of other people as you'd expect for yourself.


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